tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post6681951244744505589..comments2023-05-08T06:00:58.059-07:00Comments on {for always}: PTSD: my birth traumaRhianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16627159003038116497noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-41417560786980041972013-08-13T18:47:35.692-07:002013-08-13T18:47:35.692-07:00I just wish you all the best. having birth trauma ...I just wish you all the best. having birth trauma is never easy and I salute you for being so brave about what had happened. Keep blogging and keep inspiring.birth injury lawyerhttp://www.johnsoninjurylaw.com/birth-trauma.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-77450928584797220182013-07-22T08:19:55.689-07:002013-07-22T08:19:55.689-07:00I find you very brave to come out on the other end...I find you very brave to come out on the other end, I too have been told I have maybe got PTSD, it's been 5 years since I gave birth to my beautiful little girl !!! I had a horrific birth ,I knew something was wrong when all the doctors came in with a scan to delivery room then was giving a emergency C section that went awfully wrong the epidural didn't work I screamed out feeling the cutting, the burning of my skin !! Feeling like my insides were been ripped out of me, when they realised I could feel and it was not the pulling and tugging I was too scared to be put out I felt I would die, I have flashbacks, nightmares , I could not bond with my little girl for months, I have never truly felt myself since the birth !! I see someone a therapist we are starting edmr soon, my little girl has learning difficulties too which I wonder is it fom the traumatic birth that I can never know Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-71617611954623648912012-12-09T12:40:43.129-08:002012-12-09T12:40:43.129-08:00I had a very similar birth experience with my daug...I had a very similar birth experience with my daughter. Face first presentation, almost a c section. The only reason I did not have one is that I worked for months to ensure a natural childbirth. I went 29 hours without an epidural for a 31 hour labor. I really didn't want the epidural, but my midwife was afraid of an emergency c section, and needed to help the baby move from a brow first presentation to a face first. She was so nice that she wouldn't have been able to cause me the pain. Thank God the epi took for me.<br /><br />I have PTSD symptoms too. I am unable to fall asleep most nights. I have nightmares about my baby being disformed. I have flash backs. I am 3 months post partum and haven't been able to bring myself to get help.<br /><br />We did not have a csection, which was important. We don't use birth control, and I could get pregnant again at anytime. I want a large family, but I'm afraid of the impact this birth will have on my next ones.<br /><br />hopeofdreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18189338187076816987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-39269132672382405952012-10-05T12:04:44.428-07:002012-10-05T12:04:44.428-07:00I would love to see the perfect world that "f...I would love to see the perfect world that "frumlady" live in. <a href="http://www.ml-law.net/medical-malpractice-attorneys/philadelphia-law-firm-specializing-in-medical-malpractice-and-medical-negligence-law-firm/birth-injury-attorneys" rel="nofollow">Birth injuries</a> and trauma are no joke. I am a psychology grad, and I have been known to make assumptions from time to time, but I would never attack a persons emotional stability when it comes to birth. She probably read a paragraph on postpartum depression and now she thinks she is a expert on the subject. Don't listen to her. Keep your head up, it looks like you are getting happier by the day.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13331973835634314063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-42257260962765073982012-06-13T11:15:48.542-07:002012-06-13T11:15:48.542-07:00Thanks for sharing your story. I also was diagnos...Thanks for sharing your story. I also was diagnosed with PTSD postpartum due to a traumatic birth. You can check out my story on my blog, peaceoutofpieces.com. I think it is wonderful to be spreading the word. Too often, women are misdiagnosed, or even afraid to seek help because our society often stigmatizes things that they don't understand. I look forward to following your blog.<br />-LaurenLaurenhttp://peaceoutofpieces.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-51150700360330253112012-05-14T12:32:46.320-07:002012-05-14T12:32:46.320-07:00How wonderful that you had such a supportive netwo...How wonderful that you had such a supportive network, who understood what you had been through and urged you to get help. Even better, how fantastic that your PTSD was recognised. After my son was born (under GA) I was in pieces but everyone around me pretty much told me to get over myself. Two years on and I still have flashbacks and nightmares, and that's after going on to have another baby. I cannot let go of what happened with my son and I am trying desperately to raise awareness of birth trauma in the UK. Thanks for your post. I'm sorry you had to experience this but I'm thankful you were able to share your story. Its so good to know I am not alone.<br />XxXGhostwritermummyhttp://ghostwritermummy.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-59699311621590387972012-04-23T06:50:09.105-07:002012-04-23T06:50:09.105-07:00"Don't let your past dictate your future&..."Don't let your past dictate your future" - I love that .birth injurieshttp://www.cerebral-palsy-birth-injury.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-27652680087687613182012-04-12T09:41:27.503-07:002012-04-12T09:41:27.503-07:00I so appreciate you sharing this. I have been proc...I so appreciate you sharing this. I have been processing my own birth trauma on my blog, and shared this post and some of what you said. I really appreciated your comment on empowerment being available no matter what. Thank you.Mama 'beteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15278788294479767379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-10120806241837244582012-03-29T21:49:08.607-07:002012-03-29T21:49:08.607-07:00You are very brave. You've been through a lot,...You are very brave. You've been through a lot, and I think you just need you just need to take it slow.thalidomide birth defectshttp://www.onlinelawyersource.com/birth-defects/thalidomide/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-39183632576450394102012-01-01T20:13:37.614-08:002012-01-01T20:13:37.614-08:00I enjoyed reading this. I think it was smart and s...I enjoyed reading this. I think it was smart and self aware to go and find help so that you could, as you say, reframe the experience. I am working on that myself - so I found this a good reminder and even inspiring. Thank you for sharing. My guess is that frumlady did not read to the end and find that you were good at showing the trauma you felt in the moment and then later - how you have worked to move past that. Happy New Year :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-61396158410770584492011-12-02T04:35:48.986-08:002011-12-02T04:35:48.986-08:00Isn't it fun when trolls come give you feedbac...Isn't it fun when trolls come give you feedback on things they don't understand?<br /><br />Thanks for not leaving a link or real name "frumlady", however I was diagnosed with PTSD from a specialist and he is the one who empowered me to call it like it really was: a traumatic birth. If you haven't gone through the physical agony of something like this not the emotional turmoil of your body betraying you than maybe that's why you don't "get" it and in a way, I'm happy for you for that. However you should never call anyone else's emotional experience silly or say to them to just "grow up". I am grown up and I have grown up which is why I'm strong enough to share this story and to heal myself. Whoever treated you the way that you are now treating me and probably many others was wrong and shouldn't have diminished your feelings that way. It doesn't make it okay for you to go around doing the same thing however. You must at some point become the kind of person who is just that: kind. <br /><br />Good luck in the future but please refrain from trolling my blog. This story has helped many people, I get emails about it regularly. That says something in and of itself.Rhianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16627159003038116497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-58858862752704810072011-12-01T22:02:45.500-08:002011-12-01T22:02:45.500-08:00Sounds like you may have Postpartum Depression. Yo...Sounds like you may have Postpartum Depression. You are super hung up on the "trauma" of having successfully had a healthy baby. The only trauma here that I can see you suffered from was not having your "birth" your way. The dream didn't come true. That is silly you know.Grow up.FrumLadynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-27591853194258076662011-06-08T14:06:58.361-07:002011-06-08T14:06:58.361-07:00Rhian, this post is amazing. You are so brave and ...Rhian, this post is amazing. You are so brave and wise to share this experience with others and help them learn through your experience. I'm really glad that you took what happened to you seriously and went to seek help, because it truly seems like it helped you turn a hellish memory around into a learning experience. Asking for help isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of love and respect for yourself because you know that with some guidance, you can get through the pain and come out on the other end stronger and wiser. Thank you for being so honest and amazing! XOXORaquelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02929840791404614745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6947073656497748694.post-58830139636038550062011-06-06T06:51:35.945-07:002011-06-06T06:51:35.945-07:00I love this paragraph from your therapist:
"...I love this paragraph from your therapist:<br /><br />"I talked to my therapist: i said, "I feel like I let myself down." she said, "are you kidding? you stood up for yourself! you wouldn't let them wheel you into the OR. Do you know how brave you had to be to stop them from taking you in? to demand a second opinion at that moment? You didn't let yourself down, you stood up for yourself."<br /><br />Because that is EXACTLY what I was thinking while reading this. You should be so proud of your knowledge, level headness and research during and prior your traumatic birth. So many mothers do not inform themselves about what labor entails, your options, what can happen, what can't etc. Your knowledge was your power and you didn't just give in to the staff, you took what control you did and avoided major surgery! I'm not knocking c-sections (I had one after all!) but if you plan to have more children it is so much safer for mother and baby not to have cuts and scar tissue on your uterus. I'm proud of you for pushing through it and doing whatever you could to just survive. YOU DID IT! You suffered through something horrific but you came out on the other side and have become that lovely mother/son image you conjured up in the beginning of this post. I see the pictures of you and Henry staring lovingly at each other, you have that now and I'm so happy for you <3Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04753715150235320565noreply@blogger.com